I am so humbled by what they sacrifice because of their obedience to follow Christ, no matter what, often not knowing the full ramifications of those sacrifices until much later, after the adoption is approved, when those new daughters/sons, sisters/brothers are brought home. The adoption process, alone, with its mountains of paperwork, delays, frustrations, and on and on (an emotional roller-coaster for most) is only Chapter One in a multi-inch-thick novel entitled, “Adoption: The Lifelong Journey!”.
|This is the Luebke Family! Some of my hero’s!
Read about their adoption journey. www.whenyouriseup.blogspot.com
I am speaking more specifically about the effect adoption has on the biological children/siblings (especially younger ones) in families and then, in turn, the mental, emotional and even spiritual anguish that has on the parents as they watch what they knew and cherished before as “their family” be completely turned upside-down and disintegrate into oblivion, never to return to what it was previously. Not surprising is the parents sudden doubt about their decision to adopt, one they KNEW, ‘beyond a shadow of a doubt’, to be from God before it caused such trauma for their bio sons or daughters.
I realized all this before, but this week it has made a much deeper impact on me. Sacrifices, due to obedience, are not only personal for mom and dad, but involves sacrifices that the vast majority of biological children are forced to make when God calls the family to adopt. Forced in the fact they are not given an option, but instead told, “We are adopting!” Basically the same thing that happens when mom becomes pregnant with the next child. “Guess what, Johnny! You are going to be a big brother!”
However, birthing or adopting an infant into a family with older siblings is much different than adopting a toddler or older child. It is now Game-Day and each competes, with great skill mind you, for lap-time, nap-time, snack-time, play-time, bath-time, potty-time, mommy-time, daddy-time, and even night-time.
|I recommend both of these books for those
experiencing grief of many kinds.
|Born to Die!|
The birth of Jesus Christ! No one life, death and resurrection has impacted the masses, as His! Jesus Christ…our very own adoption approval, by God Himself, for Him, God-Almighty, to become our Father, our Abba, our Daddy!
But wait! This is only Chapter One in a multi-inch-thick, never-ending, novel entitled, “His Adoption: The Eternal Journey!”
For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ,
in accordance with his pleasure and will— to the praise of his glorious grace,
which he has freely given us in the One he loves.
In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins,
in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us.
With all wisdom and understanding, he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ,